Who Is The Better Half? Me or Me?
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During this holiday time of love, caring, and sharing our precious moments, all of us will find ourselves surrounded by our Soul Mates. This is not to be confused with Twin Flames, which I will get to in a moment.
Soul Mates are those with whom we have “contracted” with in Soul Place to be our light, to be our dark, to play our victim or devil’s advocate. They are our mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, children, and even lovers. These roles are constantly changing through our different lifetimes for the purpose of helping us grow. Those in our Soul Group are set apart from the others we encounter in day-to-day life.
We know who our Soul Mates are. We can feel it. They are the ones we click with when we meet them at a party, high school, or college. They are the ones we stay connected with over the years and, well, connect with.
Many times someone will dreamily tell us they’ve married their Soul Mate only to end up in tears some years down the road, heartbroken that their partner was not their Soul Mate after all. The truth is that the one they “lost” actually was a Soul Mate, laced with karmic attraction, who entered into the relationship all because of an agreement made to learn/teach a lesson. And who of us has not learned something from a relationship that went sour?
It took me two long-term, major relationships to end before I realized I needed to set boundaries, to value myself, and to not give it all away at the expense of my soul. And it has turned out all right. I’m healing and they’re healing (I hope, for their sake). I’m good friends with both of my ex-partners, because after all, I’ll be seeing them again in this lifetime or the next because we have Soul Place karma together.
Recognition of the lessons we are trying to learn is key, though. We need to push our ego aside, learn what those lessons are, move on, and don’t keep entering the same types of relationships. Fortunately for me, it only took two go-arounds, but I’ve seen others who keep going back for more of the same, oftentimes lousy experiences. Failing to clear the emotional baggage will only delay our union with our Twin Flame.
Photo: Fractal Artwork © Leah McNeir, 2008.
And that, my friends, is the ultimate nirvana – the literal union with our other half. Upon coming into physical plane, our soul split into masculine and feminine aspects and over lifetimes, each now-complete soul seeks to evolve through the trials we have set before us. Only then will we be able to connect once again.
How do we know we have met our Twin Flame? From what I understand, the connection is so mind-blowing – way beyond the physical and emotional level – that we will just know. Period.
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Chances are we have already had a connection with our Twin Flame in this lifetime, but one or the other just wasn’t quite prepared for the intensity such a union would create.
But we must be ready, because when Twin Flames do finally recognize one another, it is a magic of epic proportions. Imagine a depth of love so great that distance from one another is painful, but also a depth so great that one can feel the other’s thoughts, needs, and desires as if it is their own. The Twin Flames just know each other on a deep, deep soul level.
“…and when one of them meets their other half, the actual half of himself, the pair are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy and one will not be out of the other’s sight for even a moment…” ~ Plato
So you tell me…have you met your Twin Flame or are you still “practicing” with a Soul Mate? Don’t be shy. It’s all good. We’re in this together….my Soul Mates.
Posted on December 7, 2011, in Uncategorized, Relationships, Family, Past LIves, Holidays, Twin Flames, Soul Mates and tagged Diana Murdock, Diana Murdock's blog, love, family, twin flames, reincarnation, soul group, soul mate, lessons. Bookmark the permalink. 20 Comments.
A very thought provoking post, Diana. And wonderfully done.
There is something to what you say about soul mates being those we connect with and not just one person. I have met a few people in my life that I know I have to know more about and love being around.
I was going to jump on the answer that I found my soul mate in my wife– that’s what I call her. And over the years she has become the other half of the flame that keeps my soul burning. It certainly wasn’t easy– with us. Over the years (36) we’ve been together it has been me finally coming to the realization that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence.
Luckily my wife seems to have known all this time and kept me in line and out of trouble.
Thank you for giving me a new way to think of friends and family. I honestly did feel the connection with you the first time I read your blog and you were offering hugs to everyone.
What a wonderful post today! I love what Dannie wrote above too…so romantic (36 years…way to go Dannie!) So very glad you are one of my soul mates dear cousin! I have learned so much from you in this lifetime.
xoxo Toria
I did meet mine. He was wonderful. I knew something was up from the first time I met him, but didn’t realize how much was up until many years later and many encounters in between. Before he passed on, he became my best friend. We were never able to be together every day due to the distance we lived apart, but he is with me now every day. I feel him and he still communicates with me in amazing ways. I wrote my story about our friendship/relationship and sent it off to Brian and Amy Weiss for their new book, which should be published around the fall of 2012. It was an amazing experience that I know would be hard to beat in this lifetime again.
Fab post! I love how you wrote about the need to recognize the lessons we are trying to learn and that we need to push our ego aside, learn what those lessons are, move on, and don’t keep entering the same types of relationships. My god – how many galpals do I watch spin in circles with men who have different names but ARE the same men!
How many years did I waste on the same guy with different names? It’s so sad that I didn’t realize my value, my worth, and
my own inner beauty! I deserved better but I didn’t realize it so I shortchanged myself.
My divorce was the painful catalyst that helped me learn my lessons…to own my self-worth and to fall in love with myself! Only then would I be capable of finding my twin flame and loving another in the way I want and need to be loved.
I’ve always said that hubby “completes me”! I know how corny it sounds with a dash of codependence but I actually mean it in the healthiest of interdependent ways! We fit to each other. We feel each other and we tend to each other naturally. We bring out the best in each other. We nurture, support and respect one another. He’s my match. My other half. My Twin Flame!
GREAT post!
Hopefully, Twin Flames can eventually turn into Twin Embers that can give light and warmth to one another through the years.
I’m slowly learning that no one can truly make me happy or content but myself. Oh, of course other people can come along for the ride; support me, make me laugh, maybe satisfy a momentary craving… but ultimately, I’m my own soul mate. It’s a new and mind-blowing concept for me!
Met plenty of mates (of the soul persuasion or otherwise), but not my Twin Flame yet. I know its due to my soul still needing karmic work to prepare. Sometimes we get together on the astral plane even in the Dreaming, but not on the physical plane yet. It’s all a part of the journey.
I loved the depth of your post Diana!
I have to say, I am so fortunate to have met my Soul Mate and Twin Flame a long time ago. How we knew that we were meant for each other at such a tender age still boggles my mind. But…
“… when one of them meets their other half, the actual half of himself, the pair are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy.”
I could not have said it any better than that. And next week my husband and I will be celebrating another anniversary!
I wish you the best Diana! Your Twin Flame is out there, I just know it.
Diana, I love how easily your posts transport me into a different dimention. Ah, soul mates — this is a romantic subject and, I suppose, everyone would agree there is so much truth to this concept.
What a beautiful post Diana. I love the thought of soul partners coming together time and again, always playing a different role. And the twin flame – so romantic. You say they can sense each other. It’s funny, but I always know when my husband is going to call, and I am always right. I get the same thing with my mom.
I could always sense when mine was around, even if I didn’t see him, I knew he was around. I sent in my story to Brian Weiss and he’s going to publish it in his next book. The amazing things that happen with Twin Flames is just incredible. I have no idea how I’ll ever meet someone in this lifetime that I could even have come close to the experiences I had with mine (mine passed away in July 2009 and has been with me many times since).
Wow, awesome post, Diana. I love the philosophy behind this. As I read your post, I envisioned a paranormal romance story in it. Very trippy and thought provoking. Very beautiful!
Diana, this is an absolutely gorgeous and thought-provoking post. Reflecting on my first (and at this point, only) long-term relationship, we definitely weren’t Twin Flames. We loved each other, respected each other… but it wasn’t this cosmic connection that you describe. Where I’ve found this sort of link is with my close female friends. I can tell, sometimes within moments of meeting someone, if that ‘click’ is there. Sometimes it even feels audible. The problem that I’ve had is that those relationships can end up so all-consuming, so deep and intense, that we would crash and burn. I’ve had 3 friendships end this way, and I’m at the point where I’ve learned that trying to depend on a single person for all of my emotional needs just isn’t healthy or sustainable.
The closest friend that I have now is someone who I’ve known since high school. We’ve walked the same path together, shared ambitions, and even though we’ve drifted apart here and there, whenever we come back together again, we are in the same place mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. She is someone who I trust not to take advantage of me, and someone who I can trust to support me, and tell me the hard truths that I might not want to hear. We always joke that we need male versions of one another, but she is my platonic life partner, and if we find ourselves unmarried and alone down the line, we are going to buy a house and live together, Golden Girls-style, and be really awesome.
Thank you, Lena! This is probably my favorite subject. I love the passion, the butterflies, the anticipation. I can definitely feel those in my soul group. Haven’t yet met my Twin Flame, but then I’m also working through a lot of stuff lately as well. I’m with you on the girlfriend thing, except mine is my cousin. It’s a very unique bond that I don’t have anywhere else. Thanks for sharing, Lena!
DM:
I know the artist of the painting at the top of this post. He allowed me to use some of his artwork for my first play.
Heh.
xoxo
DSH
Begin to see yourself as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul. ~Wayne Dyer obtained from Soul quotes
Love, Love, Love Wayne Dyer! Thanks for sharing and thanks for the blog love!!!
Before I went to sleep last night, I asked Archangel Michael to take me to his spiritual retreat while my body slept. In some unidentified place, I spoke with my twin flame. I asked her if I could contact her, but she said not yet. It was such a peaceful and joyful dream.
Timely comment, Jeff. Contacting my Twin Flame has been a constant desire of mine, but has been elusive to this point. Distractions and fatigue may have something to do with it, but I continue nonetheless. Thank you for sharing your experience. I’ll remember it the next time I meditate.
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